Share the Love: Tips & Tools for a Big-Hearted Valentine's Day

Share the love with family acts of generosity from the kindness experts at the nonprofit - Doing Good Together.

Let's use Valentine's Day as an excuse to live generously and share kindness all month long.

I used to despise Valentine's Day.

Don't get me wrong – I love love. But it's easy to hate the commercialism and detest the vast quantities of impersonal cards and disposable toys that end up in the waste bin on February 15th. And don't get me started on the piles of cheap chocolate and vast quantities of candy that wreak havoc on my clean-eating resolutions.

But when my oldest child was in preschool, I learned the charm of Valentine's Day.

It brightens the dark, too-long winters of Minnesota. It gives us an opportunity to focus on generosity and love and reaching out to others.

For the past eight years, my family has delighted in all things Valentine. Well not all things. We've celebrated with intentional, personal, big-hearted traditions that make February full of heart, community, and life.

Share the love with these unique tools from the kindness experts at Doing Good Together™.

1. Take the #28Days of Kindness Challenge

Print this downloadable list full of creative - and simple - daily acts of kindness. Don't worry if you miss a day or two, and feel free to adjust or swap activities according to your family's interests.

2. Brainstorm ways to add generosity to your Valentine's Day.

Pose these questions to your children.

  • How can we make this Valentine's Day a real celebration of love and kindness? Is there an idea we can make an annual tradition?

  • Some kids in your school might feel anxious on Valentine's Day. They might be concerned that they're not as popular or won't get as many valentines as other kids. What could you do to make such a child feel better?

  • How can we spread kindness among the people we know? What about people we don't know who could use some cheer? 

3. Read and discuss love and kindness.

Our growing list of books about generosity and love is sure to inspire your little Valentine to do good in a big way.

4. Host a party

Valentine's parties are part of the fabric of my family's year. My daughters and their friends have a blast creating beautiful, joke-filled cards for a local nursing home. Review my post from last February, Six Steps for a Big-Hearted Valentine's Party, for details about hosting your own party.

Valentine Card-Making Parties become a staple service project for many of our member families as well! Their tips are inspiring me to shake up our tradition.

The girls made valentines for our elderly neighbors and went to deliver them. They visited with them for an hour, talking about many things. The girls were happy when they get back...but that could also be because they came home with brownies. They are excited to make more cards for them and talked about how much they enjoyed talking to them.
— From our Big-Hearted Families™ Membership Circle
Make Valentine’s for Veterans! Glue plastic toy soldiers to white index cards. Place a small red heart next to it and write “Happy Valentine’s Day”. Then on the backside, write a short message of appreciation for their service.
— From our Big-Hearted Families™ Membership Circle
The kids made cards for mom to distribute when she volunteered with Meals-On-Wheels.
— From our Big-Hearted Families™ Membership Circle

5. Join our Big-Hearted Families™ Membership Circle and receive a free Valentine Download!

Our Membership Circle isn't just a pitch to gain support for our many free, nonprofit resources.

We've designed our membership program to make it easier for families to keep kindness on their calendar. We let members know about new projects, remind them of fun, timely kindness traditions, and offer extensive tools to discuss big ideas with children and young adults.

Benefits include:

These tools are really just a starting point. Sharing the love this Valentine's Day is as easy as adding a service project or act of kindness to your family's calendar.

By broadening Valentine's Day into a celebration of generosity, you will be doing good in your community while nurturing a fun, new family tradition.

Even better, your children will grow into adults who worry less about what sort of Valentine gift to expect from their sweetheart and focus more on what sort of gift they can give the world.