Provide Comfort

Paint Comfort Stones

Offer support and hope in times of grief.

Decorate smooth stones with comforting messages and images. Then share them with people (or organizations supporting people) who are grieving.


Possible recipients

Share your creations with a local organization that supports grieving families, for example, Brighter Days Family Grief Center in Minneapolis, or with people in your life who are coping with loss.

What you’ll need

Instructions

  • Using paint markers, decorate a rock with a simple message or image of support.

  • Some examples include:

    • Words: Love, Peace, Strength, Hope

    • Images: Heart, Sun, Peace Sign, Get Creative!

  • Let your stones dry completely.

  • Deliver them in as a family.

Reflection questions

These questions are intended for families and children supporting others who are grieving. If you are supporting a child who has lost a loved one, the Dougy Center: The National Center for Grieving Children and Families, is incredibly helpful.

  • How do you think people feel about talking about death and grief? How do you feel about talking about grief? Do you have any questions about it?

  • Have you experienced grief or loss? Do you feel comfortable telling your story?

  • Death is a natural and inevitable part of life. How do you think our culture talks about death and dying? Can you recall books or movies that show examples of death or grief?

  • How does our family celebrate the lives of our loved ones when they die?

Resources

  • Cry Heart, But Never Break by Glenn Ringtved
    This simple, beautifully-told story from award-winning Danish author Glenn Ringtved, features death as a gentle houseguest. He then tells four children a story to help them understand grief, loss, and the importance of saying goodbye.

  • The Five Lives of My Cat Zook by Joanne Rocklin
    This deceptively light-hearted book features Oona, her brother Fred, and their ailing cat Zook. Oona and Fred are grieving for their father, who passed away a year before the action opens in the story. Laugh and cry with them on their journey to come to terms with the tumultuous cycles of life and death.

Take it further

  • If you’re creating stones for a grief support center, ask what other volunteer needs they may have.

  • Craft supportive, encouraging cards to share along with your stones.

  • Tell stories about loved ones your family has lost, recently or long ago. Young children love to hear family stories and it’s comforting to keep loved ones close through story.

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Support Operation Paperback

Share the solace of a good book.

Inspire friends and neighbors to put their dusty bookshelves to work! Collect paperbacks to send to soldiers serving overseas, their families here at home, and veterans.


Potential Recipients

For more than 20 years, volunteers with Operation Paperback have been distributing nearly 15,000 books each month to members of the U.S. Military.

What you’ll need

  • Motivation to ask friends and neighbors to share paperback books

  • Box to ship books

  • Art supplies to create cards for book recipients: Crayons or colored pencils, scissors, clear packing, and tape or laminating paper (optional)

Instructions

  • Sign up as an Operation Paperback volunteer. (FYI: It can take a couple of days to get confirmation from the folks at Operation Paperback.)

  • Wait for your volunteer application to be approved (about x days?).

  • Check troop requests to inform what kind of donations you ask for.

  • Collect books.

  • Package and ship books. If you are sending books only, send them via media mail, which will cost about $7 for 20 books. If you choose to add treats and small gifts, you will pay a higher rate for priority mail.

Reflection

  • Can you think of a time when you were stressed or far from home? What brought you comfort in that moment?

  • How do you feel when you are reading a good book?

  • How do you think you would feel if someone sent you a big box of new books when you were lonely or far from home?

Resources

The Impossible Patriotism Project by Linda Skeers
Explore the big idea of patriotism and celebrate heroes with this wonderful story. You'll meet Caleb, a boy stumped by an impossible assignment: make something showing patriotism. The big, bold ideas of his classmates only make Caleb feel worse. How can he show them that patriotism is more than maps and statues? His final project is stunning in its simplicity and power. You may even be inspired to visit our project instructions and write thank you letters to soldiers and their families.

Take it further

Browse the projects in our Big-Hearted Families Tookit!

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